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From the Ted Talk by Hrishikesh Hirway: What you discover when you really listen

Unscramble the Blue Letters

Sometimes, though, you do have to actually ask for more. You have to draw them out. But if you can ask for what's below the surface of what they just said, you might unlock some door for them and invite them to go through it with you. That also means turning off the itisncnt to talk about yourself. I used to think that this was actually the best way to show that I was really listening. Someone would tell me something and I’d say, “That rdemins me of this thing that heeanppd to me,” and then I would tell a whole srtoy of my own. But it's kind of like listening to half a song and then saying, "Oh, you know, this part reminds me of this other song," and then turning that first song off and going and putting on some other song, which is also something I've done.

Open Cloze

Sometimes, though, you do have to actually ask for more. You have to draw them out. But if you can ask for what's below the surface of what they just said, you might unlock some door for them and invite them to go through it with you. That also means turning off the ________ to talk about yourself. I used to think that this was actually the best way to show that I was really listening. Someone would tell me something and I’d say, “That _______ me of this thing that ________ to me,” and then I would tell a whole _____ of my own. But it's kind of like listening to half a song and then saying, "Oh, you know, this part reminds me of this other song," and then turning that first song off and going and putting on some other song, which is also something I've done.

Solution

  1. happened
  2. story
  3. instinct
  4. reminds

Original Text

Sometimes, though, you do have to actually ask for more. You have to draw them out. But if you can ask for what's below the surface of what they just said, you might unlock some door for them and invite them to go through it with you. That also means turning off the instinct to talk about yourself. I used to think that this was actually the best way to show that I was really listening. Someone would tell me something and I’d say, “That reminds me of this thing that happened to me,” and then I would tell a whole story of my own. But it's kind of like listening to half a song and then saying, "Oh, you know, this part reminds me of this other song," and then turning that first song off and going and putting on some other song, which is also something I've done.

Frequently Occurring Word Combinations

ngrams of length 2

collocation frequency
door left 3
left ajar 3
mom humming 2

ngrams of length 3

collocation frequency
door left ajar 3

Important Words

  1. door
  2. draw
  3. happened
  4. instinct
  5. invite
  6. kind
  7. listening
  8. means
  9. part
  10. putting
  11. reminds
  12. show
  13. song
  14. story
  15. surface
  16. talk
  17. turning
  18. unlock